Coaching Tips for Well-Being

Contributed by Debby Stone.

As a veteran executive coach for lawyers, entrepreneurs and corporate leaders, I am frequently asked to help my clients cope with the myriad stresses they face. There are certainly no quick fixes, but here are a few concepts and tips that I have found universally helpful for those who may be experiencing negativity or discontentment.

  • OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAKnow your values – Many of us have vague notions of what’s important to us, but it is critical to get consciously clear about the things that define and motivate us. Think deeply about who you really are, what really matters to you and what you are unwilling to compromise on – these are your core values.
  • Live in concert with those core values – While it’s important to be consciously aware of values, this awareness is relatively meaningless to well-being unless you are living a life that honors those values. Most of the discontent that people experience circles back to living in a way that does not fully honor their values. So, if you find yourself feeling that you do not see your kids enough and you value family time, you need to make an adjustment. Similarly, if you are no longer learning on the job and learning is important to you, you need to look for opportunities to grow within your workplace or in an outside activity.
  • Take care of the physical plant – Our bodies are the core of our well-being. We all know this, but when stressed we find it hard to do the things we know to do. It still bears repeating – sleep a sufficient amount each night, eat healthfully and regularly, exercise daily and take short breaks throughout the workday to get up and stretch.
  • Connect to the people you work with – When we feel connected to others, we are happier. It’s that simple. Even busy professionals need to take some time each day to have short conversations with the people surrounding them. Raising the level of connection and positivity makes for a more productive workday.
  • Get involved in something bigger than yourself – Studies show that giving back feels good. Although there are times when making the time to volunteer seems impossible, when we are involved in pro bono projects or community volunteer activities, we are happier and more engaged at work as well.
  • Recognize and express gratitude – Consider what you are grateful for on a regular basis. Making a list on paper or sharing your gratitude list out loud makes the experience more powerful. Similarly, when you are grateful to someone for something, don’t keep it to yourself – express it. There is nothing better than giving the gift of a spontaneous “thank you” both for you and for your recipient.